You have heard it before… I am sure. “I am a people pleaser.” What does that really mean? It is good to make sure others around you feel loved and have their needs met, right?
I have always been and always will be a people pleaser.
The tension that exists inside of me is always working to please the different people in my life. You would think this would be a good thing….Happy wife, kids, boss, etc… Except we all know you cannot please everyone all the time. Unfortunately, that does not stop me from trying.
It is almost as if I cant control it!
Am I now trying to win the approval of men, or of God? Or am I trying to please
men? If I were still trying to please men, I would not be a servant of Christ. (Galatians
Recently this has been a big deal as it relates to the work God is doing in my life. He is giving more responsibilities at work and at home. The tension inside of me to please everyone has grown to a point where I cannot seem to manage it anymore and it is incredibly exhausting. Sometimes I look up and think, what am I doing? The activity I am involved in seems to be disconnected and not tied back to the purpose of my work/life.
I have begun to realize that this type of activity creates a situation where I run from one duty to the next without going deep and being intentional on the things that matter most. It also hi-jacks good work. Running from one activity to the next to please someone else never really allows me to focus on what is important for the appropriate amount of time.
This is true in my professional life and my personal life. Creating the margin to go deep in my professional and spiritual growth inevitably means I am going to have to say no to someone’s request of me. Creating those boundaries have been so healthy for me, but I still worry WAY TOO MUCH about having to say no to someone.
Something that has helped is my understanding that God has uniquely equipped me to do only what He has called me to do. I have to answer to Him only. This does not mean I can ignore my boss or my wife. However, the cool part, I am realizing that I strive to please my Heavenly Father… Most of the important people in my life will be happy too.
This is a daily struggle that I am committed to leaning into and not ignoring.
The great part about the verse in Galatians (above) is that if I am serving only men, my focus is off and I cannot be a servant of Christ.
I will struggle with pleasing people the rest of my life. I am thankful that God will use me daily to glorify Him, and that the people pleaser in me can be redeemed for His Glory.